I’m all about giving Bella the best we can afford in life. From organic food, homemade meals, natural toys, and safe lotions. Cloth diapering, Maclaren strollers and HABA toys.
So imagine my surprise when the other night it hit me – so what?
Because in worrying about all of the “right” things, Sam and I have forgotten the most important. The thing we should be spending more money on than anything else.
Us. Our family.
We have neglected our marriage. The one thing that every child wants growing up is a stable, loving family with parents who are happy and love each other. Right? I mean, how many of you growing up thought, “It sucks my parents fight all the time but at least I know tomorrow I get to wear organic clothes to school.” :/
So while those things are still important to me, and always will be, my priorities are all wrong. My focus needs to be on my marriage and our parenting. Yes, being healthy is wonderful, caring about the environment is great, but that comes after a stable marriage for us. It’s been easier to work on being more eco-friendly since everything around us was falling apart.
I’m still going to do all those things, but I’m taking the focus off them in my life a little more, and start spending the money on us as a family and a couple. My daily and long term goals are to provide Bella with parents who love each other and give her a safe, happy place to grow up. That is what I should be working on, stressing over, fighting for.
Good memories of your childhood and becoming a self confident adult, because you were secure in your parents love for you, are more important than BPA free bath toys any day.