Army Wife

That’s me! Here’s what happened:

After Sam went to MEPS for his full physical and to get a job, he was wondering if he would be placed in infantry like his recruiter had told him. At an E4 – a lower rank than what he had gotten out of the Marines as. It was a big blow to both of us, because infantry is terrifying.

When he called that night, he simply said they had messed up his paperwork and put that he needed to go to boot camp, so he would need to go to MEPS again the next day to sign the corrected papers. I asked him, “What about your job? What did they tell you?” He told me we’d talk about it when he came home to get another change of clothes (the military makes you stay at a hotel the night before MEPS).

Naturally I had no problem waiting, because I am a very patient person. ::snorts::

Once he got home, he said seriously, “E4, Infantry. We could be stationed in Italy.”

Trying to see the bright side and not fall apart I said, “I like Italy.”

I peppered him with questions while wondering why he looked, well, pleased over the whole thing. Because (this answers your question Krista :) ) he really didn’t want to do infantry – although I know he would have.

Suddenly he spun the computer around and said, “This is my job, and I’m an E5.” Confused, I looked at the screen to see, “Multichannel Transmission Systems Operator-Maintainer.”

“What?” I asked. “What happened to infantry…”

He grinned. “I was just joking, I got this job and it’s pretty cool. I’ll spend a little over 4 months training in Georgia and then we’ll be stationed at the end of July.”

By this time I was so excited I didn’t hear anything else. He got a job he wanted, that wouldn’t require him to be in combat, that he won’t deploy all the time in, goes in with his previous rank, and earns enough for me to stay at home and him not to worry anymore. Plus? Free health care. Which is killing any extra income every month for us.

The only part that I’m not looking forward to is the 4 1/2 months alone here. I’m so glad he doesn’t leave till March so it’s not the dead of winter, and I’m really glad I’ll get to live here for a full year before we move. But that’s a long time to have Bella by myself 24-7.

The plan now is to either hire a sitter or put her in a daycare 2 half days a week. This allows me to get things done quicker and for us to both have a break. In January I’m going to start interviewing and looking at places. I’m also planning trips home and to see some friends, and to try to go see Sam as often as we can. Keeping busy I think will be the most important thing for both of us.

Any suggestions of things I should look into or things to do?

And thanks for all the kind words and support. Really. This blog has been a sanity saver for me the past year and I’m sure in the many long months to come.


Comments

  1. I am so happy for you guys! Sam, Congrats on the job :) Diana, you could join a league or a club. They usually meet once or twice a week and some of them are fun hobbies. Check with the community center, they usually have flyers with lots of info.

  2. I’m so happy for you and your fam. Its such great news Diana! I know exactly what you’re going through being alone. Pat was in belfast for almost a year and we haven’t dealt with long distance for the majority of Liv’s life. Its hard, but a break is exactly what you need to keep your sanity. I think that would be great for you.

    • I can’t even imagine. A year! That is amazing, I knew he was gone for a while but wow.

      I’ll e picking your brain while Sam’s gone for ideas. :) And venting. lol

  3. Come.See.Us. :)

  4. Call your brother to come watch her! Lol! No worries, u will be great! I’ll give u help on the weekends :) u know I’m a phone call away! I’m so happy this worked out and totally jealous of your tricare!!!!

  5. You’re so cute: “I like Italy.” That cracked me up. Like I told you, I’m really glad this all worked out for the best, as far as his job and his rank. And a year from now, you’ll look back on the months that he was away and realize, it really wasn’t that bad. There will be frustrations, and a lot of adjustment, but you can do it. You’re an amazingly strong person who has already been through so much. And putting her in a daycare a few days a week will be a God send. I’m not kidding, BEST IDEA EVER!!

    • I always thought 18 months in Okinawa and 9 in Iraq were so long, and now we’re facing 4ish and it’s long but seems doable. Especially knowing that we will have some structure to our week. Some kind of break for both me and her is a must.

  6. Whoo hoo!! Are you kidding? This sounds like the best of all possible scenarios. Well, aside from the whole single mom for 4 months thing ; ) But with the help of a sitter or day care you can handle. After the year you’ve gone through, you can pretty much handle anything! And Italy. I am red, white and green with envy. I LOVE Italy. How cool would to be stationed in Italy. Congrats to you guys on such good news!

    • I know – and Italy is still an option eventually for us with his job, but we plan on sticking around in the States for a while. But it’s really, really nice to know it’s there if we decide to go overseas.

  7. Congrats on the wonderful news! Just in time for Christmas :)

  8. That’s fantastic!! How wonderful :) Good for Sam! And it won’t seem like it, but 4.5 months will FLY!

  9. Girl, I am so happy for you both. Everything is going to work out great!! We should really spend some time together before you get stationed. We can talk lots on the phone, because I know you will probably get bored. You should really get cable so you can watch my favorite show, Army Wives, lol. I love you! Tell Sam we said great job. Yay

  10. So glad everything worked out! And good for you for saying “I like Italy.” Very positive!!!

  11. Well, that was pretty tricky of your husband to play it off like he was going into infantry at first. ;-) But, I’m so glad it worked out! (And thanks for answering my question – even if it was a little nosy!)

    I think it’s a great idea for you to get some help with Bella while Sam is gone. You will need the break, a chance for adult interaction, some time to feel like something other than Bella’s mom while you’re taking on the brunt of parenting for 4.5 months. You will rock it, I have no fear. But you deserve a break too. So don’t forget about taking care of you.

  12. I am soo happy to hear this Diana! I love the way you wrote about you and Sam’s adventure :) I am so happy for You and for Sam, he has made such a journey, changing who you are is never and easy thing for anyone. You both have changed so much. Things to do: my list is a mile long! Well, come to California, so we can hang out :) go to disneyland, you know…all that fun! No really, check out the community center, classes are always fun and a GREAT way to meet people, organize photos into photo books, when I am not too busy I give myself a project a week, hit up all the parks, museums, and do everything you would like to do before you move! Document where Bella has lived in photos- so go to all the places and take a photos, homes, parks, etc… Blog!!

    That is all my friend, I am very super excited for you and your family.
    Love <3 to you!

    • I LOVE how you reminded me to do stuff I’ve always wanted to here. Thank you. Because sometimes I forget we won’t be back here, maybe ever, and to really *live* here while I’m here.

  13. Where in Georgia is he going to be stationed? We are in the Atlanta area and if there is anything that we can do to help you guys out let me know!

    • Ft. Gordon is in Augusta, I need to see where that is exactly. He’ll just be there for training though, I won’t be there. :( However, it’s one of the places that many of the people with his job get stationed after, so you never know! Thank you very much for the offer, and if it’s close maybe we could meet up when I come visit him?

  14. Britton Wade says:

    Hey there!! I am also a AW! My husband is stationed in Afghanistan at the moment and he is in the infantry! We have a 2 year old. We were working on number 2 when he left. I found out I was pregnant then miscarried. I also have a rare heart disease and I have a pacemaker. I am 22. But the hardest thing I have been thru was the AW part.. I still havent found any activities.. I live in one of the smallest towns.. lol.. :)

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