I’ve posted many times on wanting to be more me on here. More real, more open. More opinionated. Sunday I wrote a post that was straight from my heart, no editing or anything. I set it to publish that next morning and went to bed.
In the past 3 days, I’ve learned that when people encourage you to, “Write what you want!” they often mean to add, “As long as it’s something we agree with!”
I’m not going to sit here and say that some of the comments made on my posts or spin off posts from it didn’t hurt. They did. It wasn’t easy to see people get their feelings hurt and become offended. It certainly wasn’t my intention, and I wrote it with no one in mind but myself and a random Pinterest pin from someone I don’t even follow.
I’ll be real honest – that post brought in a lot of traffic, both that day and the ones that followed. Obviously it touched a nerve in the mom community – from housecleaning to childcare to what our roles are as mothers in the home. I had no idea it would really piss so many people off, or have people accuse me of being judgmental. I feel like a LOT of readers simply skimmed it through and came up with this:
“She thinks she’s a better mom because her home may or may not be cleaner than mine.”
It wasn’t about how clean my house is. Or yours, although based on the comments I got detailing your cleaning regiments it appeared I needed that information. It was about something that bothered me – the fact that I’ve had someone point blank say I can’t be an attentive mother with a happy child and have a clean home, and those stupid pins just go right along with that line of thinking.
What I’m left with now is this: is this worth it? Is writing a blog post that drives traffic and spurs conversation worth it if you piss off people? If you find that it isn’t really being read but being skimmed and then conclusions are drawn? If you think that everyone who knows you will understand where your thoughts are coming from but instead they misread it?
You may be thinking, “But you got a ton of comments! So why complain, take what you get.” But how is that worth it when half of them were angry and upset?
Is this the price of writing publicly? The price I’ll pay for speaking my mind? If you don’t agree, I’ll have to deal with angry comments and unfollowing and backlash? Who wants that?
Yet who wants to write happy, pretty posts all day that have to do with nothing I care about? I can’t find a balance. Where is the line between “boring” and “too much”?
This is my dilemma. Is this worth it? How do I make you see my posts aren’t simply me trying to make an income and get noticed no matter what the cost and not something that is written from the heart? That it isn’t EVER personal or directed at you? How do I convey that to you?