Remember that old poem that says, “Quiet down cobwebs, dust go to sleep, I’m rocking my babies, and babies don’t keep”?
It’s so sweet. And true. And annoying.
I see little cutesy sayings on FB, Pinterest, and blogs all the time that have to do with a messy house because a good mom lives there. The mom the saying is referring too is much too busy enjoying her children to clean up or do chores – and everyone is all the better for it.
It’s almost insulting to read those. As if you can’t possibly be a great mom and have a tidy home. You know, because women really need to limit themselves to simply playing and rocking the children. Dishes be damned.
I realize the cobwebs saying is for the extreme. Children do grow up awfully fast and there are times that being with them needs to come first. But to use the excuse of, “I have kids” because my home is always a mess doesn’t set well with me. If my home is a mess, it’s because I’m being lazy. Not because I’m such a great mom.
I’m a stay at home mom. I believe that part of my job is to keep a well kept home. Thats just me – certainly there are people out there who don’t feel that way and it’s fine. Now if I worked, that might be another story. I obviously wouldn’t have as much time to devote to cooking and cleaning and I’d want to play with my children in my free time, so I’d probably put it as less of a priority and be ok with it. But I’m home. Making a home is my job.
How very 1950’s of me.
It’s true though. I take pride in the fact that I keep my home picked up, the floors clean, the dishes done, the laundry folded and put away. Sure there are things that slip through the cracks. Days that we let things slide. But for the majority of the time, this home is tidy. I don’t neglect or abandon Bella doing so, it’s just a part of our day together.
I believe teaching Bella how to be a helper with me, for her to watch me cook and clean, to play on her own at times is just as important as the one on one time I spend with her. We have a daily and weekly schedule of things that need to be done, and I do them. It’s not that I’m perfect or better. I’m not trying to be June Cleaver or ultra mom. I only have one child so that helps. But for me, a clean, neat home is important. It’s not over the top, but it’s clean.
It’s simply an insult to read over and over the insinuations that if your home is clean – you must be neglecting your children. Really?
You can be a fantastic mom with a messy home. Absolutely. There is no kind of prize or Mother of the Year award for housekeeping. But you can also be a fantastic mom with a clean home. I don’t see how either one really matters as long as you’re doing what’s comfortable for you and your family – but let’s not throw the other half under the “good mom bus” for a cleaner house.
Now if you’ll excuse me, Monday is a laundry day and Bella needs to be ignored.