We had Bella’s 2 year Dr. appointment today. Why is it that I always feel so on guard and defensive with doctors?
Sure I don’t like to be told what to do. I think we’ve established that nicely on here the past 2 years.
But part of me feels like it’s the same thing they’d tell any parent, regardless of the child sitting there. As long as the kid is healthy and meets the “standard” – everyone gets the same talk.
I am not anti doctor. I just wish they took a little more time with us.
Anyway, rant aside, the new pediatrician here rubbed me the wrong way by saying within 2 minutes of being in the room that, “We don’t do pacifiers and you need to throw it away immediately. No more paci.”
So yeah. Bella still has a paci. Also? It has a stuffed cat attached to it.
She’s had a paci since she was born. There was a point around 9 months I think I could have taken it away without problems but she was so cute and we just let her keep going.
Now she’s 2 and I realize that it’s not the best thing for her to have. In our defense, she only gets it at nap and nighttime. And if I go some where traumatic – like to the Dr. Where she screams her head off for it the moment she gets on the table with the crinkly paper and rats me out. “PAPI! PAPI!” While pointing to my purse.
Maybe I should have told the Dr. she wanted her grandpa or something. :/ Hindsight…
I felt like telling the Dr, “No, we’ll decide when we’re ready to do that. Thanks. You don’t live here, you don’t have to deal with it.”
I have realized in the past 2 years that I do not have to listen to my Dr about these types of things. When the Children’s Hospital Dr we saw for her reflux suggested I stop breastfeeding and start pumping and supplementing with formula, we ignored that. It wasn’t right for us. Turned out we were right later on when she wasn’t underweight for a breastfed child. We didn’t start her on solids till 5 1/2 months after being told to at 4. And the only reason we did it that early was because we thought it might help the reflux. (No.)
But this – well this might be right. I don’t know. That’s the problem. Bella loves her paci. Loves it to pieces. And other than it being an annoyance, it doesn’t cause any problems. Her speech is fine now, she has it at night…
Eventually it has to go away. Of course. Do we do this now when it will be rather traumatic? Later when she is more willing? Will it ever get easier or is sooner better than later?
So I’m turning to you all, asking for your opinions on this.
Should a 2 year old still have a pacifier? And if not, do you have any more gentle ways of detaching than throwing it away?