A Purpose

September 9, 2013

When I was little, I believed everything had a link to something else. Our lives were intertwined and nothing, nothing happened without a reason.

Everything had a purpose.

Losing the twins and hearing there wasn’t any logical explanation why rocked that belief.

I’ve wondered the past 18 months why my water broke but I didn’t go into labor for a week. Why I was made to hold onto them and they still lived that long with barely any fluid – only to pass away in my arms.

Then I had Kaden. And losing him – after two weeks of watching him endure medications, operations, and treatments most of us will never know personally about – that profoundly impacted my faith in every area. Especially knowing he would have been a perfect candidate for a heart transplant if they hadn’t found the HHV6 virus that caused delays, and eventually a consensus of it being too risky to chance another heart in him.

Leaving all of us, once again, asking why? What on earth could be a purpose behind this?

This past week we learned that because Kaden had the virus no one on earth his age seems to have ever had before, the CDC would like to open a case on him. We’re not exactly sure what it means, but we do know that we’re willing to move heaven and earth to find out if this is affecting other babies. Because what would have happened if we hadn’t gone to Children’s after the doctor hearing a gallop on his heart?

We would have taken him home and he would have died there. We would have never known about HHV6, although we may have found out about his weak heart ventricles. We would really and truly have never had an answer.

So we are hoping that his life serves this purpose. That because of him living, and what he went through, other babies may be able to live fully. And if he’s simply a small piece of that puzzle, that’s ok too.

Today Brickyard Buffalo is hosting a flash sale (24 hours) for us. Vendors have donated their prints, clothing, and custom work to raise funds. These three below are labeled “Stone Family Fundraiser.” We will be saving a portion of the other funds raised for our medical, memorial service, and extra expenses in Dallas for the same reason. For research, maybe a non-profit in his name. That’s something Sam and I feel so strongly about. If this little known virus is something that causes babies to just – die – we want to be able to have Kaden’s life help stop that.

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These three vendors above are giving all proceeds today to us. We would love if you would consider purchasing and/or sharing about this so we can raise the money needed to put aside for this research. So that Kaden’s life might have a very visible purpose.

And thank you. Thank you for being a part of this for us. Again.

20 Comments

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    October 18, 2013 at 10:51 am

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  • Natalie Box – The Writer’s Ink

    September 12, 2013 at 8:07 am

    Hi Diana,

    I just stumbled upon your blog after Courtney Kirkland mentioned the ‘She Reads Truth’ post. I have just read your story and I’m sitting here in Melbourne, Australia just amazed at your strength. I just had to let you know what an incredible inspiration you are to so many and I wanted to thank you for sharing your story. I can’t imagine what you have been through, but I know that everything you are doing and sowing is having a powerful impact on this world, bringing freedom and blessing many hurting souls with truth and love. 🙂 I pray God continues to strengthen you and comfort you at this time. Sending love, prayers and blessings from Australia. 🙂

    Love Nat xxxxxx

  • Jessica M

    September 11, 2013 at 10:43 am

    Diana – I received this email from my mom, forwarded from devotional emails she receives. It really struck a chord with me and I wanted to pass it on to you. Praying for your family <3

    “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.” -Romans 8:28
    The goodness of God is often loudly questioned by those outside the church and their doubts are frequently echoed by Christians who find themselves disillusioned with a God whom they expected to grant their every wish. It’s difficult to answer the why questions of people who have experienced heartbreak, tragedy and abuse through no fault of their own. Some will reject God when they face these trials. They will decide that no God can be loving and allow such atrocities. Others will try to make excuses for God, saying that He has nothing to do with the bad things that happen, as if God conveniently leaves His sovereignty at home when things are about to go awry.
    How do we explain the bad in light of Romans 8:28? “We know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him.” It would seem that if this verse were true, Christians would have the easiest of lives. We would all be beautiful, wealthy and healthy. We wouldn’t experience loss, poverty, abuse or deprivation of any sort. In reality, the opposite is true and has been from the start. The Bible warns us of the trials that we will face as followers of Jesus. 2 Timothy 3:12 says, “In fact, everyone who wants to live a godly life in Christ Jesus will be persecuted.” Most of Christ’s first disciples were imprisoned, beaten, tortured and killed. For centuries Christians have experienced persecution and 2,000 years later, there are still parts of the world where the label ‘Christian’ is equivalent to a death sentence.
    Earlier in Romans 8, Paul writes “We know that the whole creation has been groaning as in the pains of childbirth right up to the present time.” John Piper put it this way, “The miseries of the universe are not death throes, but birth pains.” We misinterpret the trials of this life to be signs of death and destruction. They are not. The difficult moments of our short lives here are not symptoms of our death but the pains of our coming new life. Yet it is remarkably hard to look at it that way when we’ve lost a child or a spouse, been abused or abandoned.
    How are we supposed to know that God works for the good of those who love Him? By faith. By faith, we must choose to trust that even the most excruciating moments of our lives will ultimately be for our good and His glory. Paul tells us that Christ has a purpose for us and the events that shape and mold our lives. Whatever pains we suffer in this life will be made new in the redeeming light of eternity, but until we see Him face to face, we must choose to walk in faith, believing, as the apostles did, that He is working for our good.

  • Allison

    September 10, 2013 at 5:46 am

    Thank you for turning to research and looking for an answer. I know an answer or simply more information could calm your heart, but even more so, what you are doing could really mean life for another family. You didn’t have to. You could have said ‘no.’ But you and Sam didn’t and I thank you both for that. I couldn’t figure out the sale (and I really just doing need anything right now), but thank you for the you caring link. I just donated.

  • Amy

    September 9, 2013 at 9:45 pm

    Thank you for sharing your story. We lost our son, David 2 months ago. He lived on this earth 14 days before going home to Jesus.

  • Valanne

    September 9, 2013 at 6:23 pm

    Diana, Thank you for sharing these new this purpose that is being revealed to you. And thank you for the reminder of the YouCaring.com fund raiser site. I read about it before and couldn’t find my way back to the link and did want to add to it.
    Here’s the link in case anyone reading this wants to quickly get to the support fund without searching for the link in the above post >> http://www.youcaring.com/other/pray-for-kaden-/81306. It’s really quick and easy to do!

    1. Valanne

      September 9, 2013 at 6:25 pm

      Should read ^ Thank you for sharing this purpose that is being revealed to you.

  • Heather

    September 9, 2013 at 6:18 pm

    Dear sister, I am dearly heartbroken for you that your family had to go through this.. My love and affection goes out to you.

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    September 9, 2013 at 12:33 pm

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  • Jess

    September 9, 2013 at 12:27 pm

    I agree wholeheartedly, Diana. I know one thing, Kaden’s journey brought SO many people to their knees in prayer. Sometimes, it can take many years before we realize God’s purpose behind something and sometimes its just so big our human brains can never fathom. I know in watching how you have loved and grieved you have taught so many of us mother’s what true grace is. Maybe the purpose lies in many things; finding cures, being a voice for mother’s who are also grieving and reminding us on a daily basis what gifts all of our children are. Through all of this you have been an honest, graceful woman of God. I think Preston, Julian and Kaden look down on you and see what a strong mother they have and what a strong girl you’re raising in Bella. Much love and many, many hugs from California

  • Lindsey Bell

    September 9, 2013 at 11:47 am

    His life definitely served a purpose. Serves a purpose. You are a wonderful mother to all of your children–those on earth and those in heaven.

    I’ve lost 4 babies, and I don’t know why God allowed it to happen. I’m really struggling, as you’ve shared that you are too. If you figure out how to move forward–how to trust God when he doesn’t answer your prayers but seems to answer the prayers of everyone around you–please let me know. B/c I am still searching. Trying to be content with the boys I have (one biological, one adopted) but struggling to believe he loves me as much as the Bible says he does….Praying for you…Remembering with you…hurting with you.

    1. Diana

      September 9, 2013 at 12:13 pm

      Sweet Lindsey,

      I don’t know that any of it will ever make sense. Even if this proves to be something wonderful, my heart will always wonder why they couldn’t have found out about it AND Kaden lived. To prove the odds wrong. To continue to help others with his life. I don’t know. It’s all awful and hard to go through. I think sometimes – the only purpose they serve here on earth is the one *we* make through their lives. Like the twins. They made me a better mom, opened my eyes to being a lot more compassionate to other women who lose babies. I could be wrong with that, we’ll never know here. I’m praying for you and your heart, and for our struggle to have faith in whatever is going on down here.

  • Jennifer @ Also Known As…the Wife

    September 9, 2013 at 11:33 am

    I hope the CDC can learn lots of useful information from Kaden and when the information is presented to doctors around the world they’ll always preface it with Kaden’s name.

  • Anna Mills

    September 9, 2013 at 11:31 am

    I just happened to find your blog through the She Reads Truth blog. I think that God led me here for a reason. I am sending prayers for you and your family during this time. Your strength during this time is an inspiration and your devotion to The Lord is amazing! Prayers and love being sent your way!

  • Marlen

    September 9, 2013 at 11:05 am

    You amaze me, Diana. To be willing to do this for others in the midst of your tragedy and grieving. You are an inspiration!

  • Jill

    September 9, 2013 at 11:04 am

    First, I am heartbroken that your family has endured so much pain over and over again. Second, I also believe that everything happens for a reason. Sometimes that reason isn’t clear for years, if ever, even if it never makes any real sense. This is one of those cases. Nevertheless, I hope that knowing that the CDC wants to investigate, at the very least, eases your mind a smidge even while your hearts ache. Hugs from a stranger in Denver.

  • Andrea B (@goodgirlgonered)

    September 9, 2013 at 10:54 am

    Already done. I bought a bag for myself and will be getting one for my mom, too, in a moment. I wish I could do more. I wish I was able to hug you and hold you and thank you for being so generous so others can have the help should they wind up in the place where you have been. You’re incredible, Diana. I send you continued strength. (And hope the hug and the holding doesn’t sound too weird.)

    1. HP

      September 9, 2013 at 11:35 am

      I don’t see a bag in the Stone Family Fundraiser vendors? I’m kind of confused. Can we buy from any of them or just those three?

      1. Emily Danielson

        September 9, 2013 at 12:09 pm

        I’m with you. I thought it was just the three options.

      2. Diana

        September 9, 2013 at 12:10 pm

        Just the three listed! The rest are from their regular stock.

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