Moving, Hoarders, and True Love

2013-09-17 10.33.11-2 * I misspelled the title so if you shared it before I caught it, well. Now you have friends asking what a “Hoader” is.

So I’ve added it up and in 10 1/2 years of marriage, I think I’ve moved 9 times. Some with Sam, some by myself when I would move to be with him or head home when he deployed.

9 times. And that’s not all – I moved a lot as a kid too. I’ve got this packing thing down. Sam told me I was a “packing freak” this morning after I did two rooms in two hours, but I prefer to think of myself as a “packing guru”. We’ve never had the military move us (for one reason or another) so each time I’ve done this pretty much on my own.

I love our new little house. I will also miss this one (however not the swamp cooler that is currently blowing moist air on me). I’m ready to go though. We need a do-over here. It’s been a rough two years in El Paso. I figure, if we’re stuck here at least one more, we need a home we can love and figure out what’s next for us in. Somewhere easy and low maintenance with room for family, friends, and Bella’s childhood. This new house is it.

We have until the 30th to be out of our current home, and since our new one is only about 3 miles away we’re just taking our time. We fill up the minivan with boxes and then take them over, unpack, and repeat. I’m in no hurry, I just want it done before I leave for the Influence Conference so when I come home I don’t have to spend that last day trying to get everything out of this house.

One of the toughest parts of all this is the time it takes up. So in between packing and moving I’m trying to write, answer emails, do campaigns, take care of Bella, fix meals, clean up the mess… It’ll be sorted out in the next few weeks but trying to balance it is a challenge right now. She’s napping and Sam’s putting boxes in the car so I get a couple of hours to catch up on here before we go clean the house and take over another set of boxes this evening.

The other hard part is that for most moves, I get to throw/give away SO MUCH STUFF. Like – I am usually appalled at the amount of stuff we don’t really use that we somehow have accumulated over the last few years. I don’t want to find room for it or pack it up, and it leaves us starting with a lot less. However, this time it’s so easy to throw things in the car and haul them 3 miles down the road…

You get the idea. Nothing makes me twitchier than arguing with Sam over a one inch USB port no one has touched in two years, no one has any idea what’s on it, and will not ever be used but still must be kept “just in case.” Oh friends. The twitchiness as I tried so hard to explain that IT NEEDED TO BE THROWN AWAY. He has this terrible Hoarder’s tendency that makes him want to keep anything even slightly useful. I felt like if we didn’t clear this hurdle, the next would be arguing about big things.

I gave up and I told him if he wanted it, he needed to pack it.

True love. We haz it.

Just not while packing things.

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  1. Joan Eilts Bost says:

    Oh I remember those days of moving during our PCS days. It was a good time to purge the abundance of "fluff". It always felt so good with less stuff but at the same time feel for Sam as I know that feeling also. "Someday" we might need it. Still fight with that urge and after retiring from the military it still hasn't gone away. lol Wishing you luck in your new home. And happiness!!

  2. haha! Girl, I just packed while he was gone and he never even knew anything was missing! ;-D

  3. I’m the hoarder in our relationship. I don’t understand why perfectly useful things we might use need to be thrown away. Good luck with the move!

  4. You made me smile! Ray and I just pretty much throw stuff in boxes. I’m dreading the day.

  5. Oh, man. we have similar arguments before/during our moves too! Except I’m the hoarder… LOL! Although, the more we move the better I’ve been about getting rid of stuff. We had a garage sale before we left Hawaii (not very successful, though), and then one when after we moved in and realized how much JUNK we still had. Even after the garage sale we were forced to take boxes (BOXES!) to Goodwill. I’ll never know how all the stuff accumulates….

  6. We just moved two weeks ago and went through the same thing. My dad says, “Three moves is as good as a fire.” :D He’s so right. My husband finally got rid of that one big thing he’d been lugging around for years. Hallelujah. (I told him the same thing. If you want it, you pack and tote it. It works.).

    All the best with the move. You deserve something easy for a change.

    Hugs

    SJ

  7. I really want to declutter our house from all that rubbish my hubby just keeps without even thinking about it. Then he can’t find anything he actually needs anyway!! Hope your move goes well, and you settle in quickly.

  8. Yaneris Dolce says:

    My husband is a usb/pointless cords hoarder. We have it all, spare cable, hdmi, headphones, ethernet cables, every box from verizon or comcast or directv…I hate it all! every move (we are also military) I throw a little bit away behind his back. THis recent move was a ton of CDs from installation of printers and computer programs we haven't had in years. It felt awesome. Oh the twitchiness and the arguments over these pointless things lol

  9. My husband is a hoarder too (or everything useful). I love to throw things away. I've caught him pulling things out of the trashcan (in the street even) many occasions. I have decided our next house is going to have a Joe room only (size of a bedroom is fine or a really big closet somewhere) and when I find things he insists upon keeping – it goes in that room. True love yes – I try to get rid of it while he's not looking and 99% of the time it's successful and he doesn't even know it's gone, but it makes it hard to get rid of it cause I have to do it when he's not around and make sure he doesn't see it in the trash.

  10. Angela Reigelsperger says:

    Sounds like Will!!! Don't get me started in the things he keeps!

  11. Angela Reigelsperger says:

    Sounds like Will! Don't get me started on the things he keeps!

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