I wrote this piece today for Babble Kids, but I am so passionate about allowing our children to feel their emotions (especially when it comes to loss) that I wanted to share it on here so that it reaches more of you. Please feel free to share the full article with everyone.
My almost 4 year old climbs into my lap and asks for the hundredth time, “Where is Kaden?”
I respond with the same answer each time, it comforts her. “He went to heaven. He’s with the two babies (our twins).”
I can see her brain process this yet again. “You are sad?”
“I’m happy and I’m sad. I’m happy because you are here, so is Daddy, and I know Kaden isn’t sick any more. But I’m sad because I miss your brothers, and it’s ok to be sad.”
She nods. “You wanted them to come home, but no. Two babies were too small and Kaden was too sick.”
This same conversation is played out multiple times a day in our home with Bella. I won’t lie – talking about loss with children is hard. It hurts to see her try so hard to comprehend why we didn’t get to bring a baby home, again. After losing 3 brothers she’s waited excitedly for and been promised all kinds of fun things to do with, I can’t help but deeply feel the injustice handed to her at such a young age. Read the rest on Babble