My friend Kim has been out since Tuesday visiting me. I hardly ever write about family or friends that come to be with us, or us going to see them, because it’s usually an intense time packed into a short period – and it gets hard to write on. Also? Sometimes I write on things I can’t say, so I don’t want anyone to read this after we/they leave and think, “She couldn’t tell me that, but she was able to write it on the blog for the world to read?”
Anyway, Kim’s visit was really special because she’s one of my dearest friends. We can talk on anything (ANYTHING) and it’s normal. I never feel competitive or like she’s judging me or that I have to pretend. It’s just us – spilling our fears and dreams.
Kim’s husband was our babysitter growing up. So we’ve known his family a loooooong time. I got to know her when Bella had severe reflux and my mom told me her son went through the same thing. A 2 hour phone call later and that was it. Staying in touch and getting to know each other through blogging in the midst of kids and lives and all that busy – that was special. I knew even if there was a week I couldn’t talk to her, I had her blog to read.
I know there are so many of us that struggle with the “real” aspect of social media. If this is all just a bubble. But I can tell you, again, that I’ve never regretted what I do – it’s changed my whole life. FB/Twitter/IG has kept me in touch with women I knew in real life (like Kim) that were too far away to see often, and brought into my life women that I may never meet but never forget. I’ve met friends who live here that I will have bonds with the rest of my life because of social media.
This is a powerful tool for us. This community of women that write have changed my life. I no longer feel alone in any aspect of my life. Ever. That’s an incredible feeling. I know that no matter what I’m going through, if I’m able to talk about it, someone else will say, “Me too.” All my quirks and differences found a home online. My grief found a safe place. My story found a support beside it.
I started this blog nearly 4 years ago because I was a bored new mom. Looking back, I can see how God placed it on my heart so that when life happened, my need for affirmation and communication had a place to go. It’s incredible to me to think that all this happened while I was blogging. All of it, the good and the sad, would have happened anyway. But being able to share it and know others cared – that is life changing.