This evening we’re interviewing a potential new sitter.
Our current one has been with us over a year now. I honestly am having a hard time with her leaving, and so is Bella. She’s been here for the entire pregnancy with Kaden, the loss of him, and helped us with the aftermath. She stepped in to give my parents a break when they watched Bella as we took care of Kaden in Dallas, and then again to care for our pets before we came home. She’s been our date night sitter, our on call sitter, and made sure she was handling Bella’s questions correctly after Kaden died. She’s crafty and creative and does the dishes for me –
Her husband is getting out of the Army and she’s moving home with him next month – as is so often the case with our military lifestyle. It’s beautiful to meet new people and live new places, but always knowing that it will end in a goodbye usually sooner than your heart is ready for.
This will be our fourth time hiring someone – always using SitterCity (no affiliate link, just really love them) for our search. Military families have a free, full membership there FYI. We had a sitter for a short amount of time once a week in Denver while Sam was training in Georgia and Bella was about a year old. Then right after Preston and Julian died – in fact the day my water broke – I was supposed to meet with a new one here in El Paso. She ended up with us for about 9 months before moving home, helping us through the disaster that was our life after that.
Our current sitter (I don’t like to use names on here for their privacy) was a God-send after several flaky ones falling through, being pregnant and sick with Kaden, Sam leaving for 2 months, and so many appointments to get to. She showed up and stayed through it all, 10ish hours a week for the past 14 months.
I’m hoping that we find someone just as wonderful. Someone that Bella loves again, that fits into our family for however long we get to have them with us. We’ve been truly blessed to find the right person at the right time. They’ve enriched our lives, but especially Bella’s, in ways we never thought possible with how kind and compassionate they all have been. I watch them get married, have babies, and move on through Facebook and wonder how we ever got so lucky?
These women allow me to continue to do what I love while providing Bella with a stable, secure, loving relationship as I work and go to therapy to – well – be worked on. I’m praying that we find a great fit again and have a smooth transition that doesn’t leave Bella quite as broken hearted – although like I told her this morning as we talked about it:
“It’s ok to be sad when someone is gone. It means that they meant a whole lot to you.”