You might not make it.

June 25, 2010

In Blogging. You might not make it.

Many of us have different reasons for why we blog. A lot of the time, I read about women who want to be the next big thing – or at least have a really popular mom blog.

Then there’s more comments, more traffic, more publicity.

Bigger Twitter numbers. Speaking at blogging conferences. Being offered a book/magazine publication.

What if it never happens? What if your numbers stay about the same, even if you blog consistently for the next few years? What if you don’t get more comments, if you go to conferences and no one really knows who you are, if you only write for yourself?

Will you be ok with that? Will you stop blogging and focus on something else? Keep going?

Let’s face it – we can’t, and aren’t, all going to be like Dooce. So then what? Where does that leave you? What will you do if this happens – if you wake up one day 3 years into this and are exactly where you are right now? Do you love writing enough to do it anyway, or will you tell yourself, “This isn’t my thing, not my gift, and that’s ok.”

I’m curious as to what you think about this.

40 Comments

  • In The Babyhood

    September 24, 2010 at 8:11 pm

    Just reading this…your blog is addicting btw…and wondering who Dooce is?!?! I write to share what I want to, what I NEED to, because I crave the support of other mommas and want to provide support as well. Having my voice heard when my son is sick, or when I am having a draining day, and hearing back from other mothers who relate is therapeutic.

  • Life with the Lebedas

    June 29, 2010 at 3:25 pm

    I think people are going to read your blog if they want too. I'm still going to be writing even if there aren't readers. I do it for me. I don't do it for the numbers.

    I started blogging so family that didn't live by us could keep up and then it transformed into more of a therapy and i've gone back and forth on what i want my blog to be like . . . ha i still change my mind weekly but I enjoy meeting people and expressing myself! 🙂

  • The Empress

    June 29, 2010 at 11:13 am

    I blog b/c I love to write. I blog b/c I have friends here. I blog b/c w/o I was a very unhappy, lonely woman before I began.

    It's working for me, so numbers don't matter since I have my steady friends, and I'm making new friends all the time.

    What more could you ask for, really???

  • CaneWife

    June 27, 2010 at 8:33 am

    I blog for me. Sure, I love comments and I love traffic, but I would still do what I do.

    I love writing and I love having an ongoing record of Turtle's life and my experience as his mom.

    The rest is gravy.

  • Stephanie @ Confessions of a Trophy Wife

    June 26, 2010 at 7:38 pm

    I love blogging and will continue to do so as long as I have the desire. I started out with no readers – not even family, except my husband. It was (and still is) a place for me to record what's going on in our daily lives. Right around the time I got pregnant I let some family know about my blogging. Now, I have a handful of people that I don't know in RL who read my blog. I love getting comments. I love seeing that I have a consistant number of readers and I love when I see that someone can relate to what I'm experiencing, but it's not necessary for the reason that I blog.

  • Scary Mommy

    June 26, 2010 at 8:38 am

    This is a really good question. I'd like to say, yes! I'd blog even if nobody ever read a thing. But, I'd be lying- if nothing else, blogging has made me an attention whore.

  • thenextmartha

    June 26, 2010 at 8:25 am

    I don't even have numbers. That's like that analytics or something right? I don't even call myself a blogger. That's for people who write or at least try to. For almost a year I tweeted to myself. So, I think I'll be ok tending the garden for the rest of my life with the little voice in my head. That voice likes to talk a lot.

  • Unplanned Cooking

    June 26, 2010 at 7:27 am

    I just love writing. And blogging has given me a great outlet – you have an immediate audience, and who cares what size it is? It's about the connection, and for me that doesn't matter if it's just my family (which is great, considering the distance between us) or somebody I don't know who feels something after they've read what I've written.

  • Miranda

    June 26, 2010 at 7:20 am

    I started blogging in college as part of therapy after a really, really bad semester. I needed an outlet, and LiveJournal provided that. Eventually, I stopped journaling.

    But I've always been a writer. It's why I became an English teacher. So, in 2008 when we decided to start trying to have a baby, I decided to start blogging about the journey, and it was just for me. I didn't even tell my husband I was doing it.

    Once Joshua was born, it became therapeutic again. I needed an outlet! I needed advice and other moms to say "You can do this!" because I was drowning in the emotions. And it has helped tremendously.

    Would it be cool to eventually make some money from this? Sure. I mean, I'd like a new pair of shoes or a nice dinner out (without the baby!) on occasion. But if it never happens, and there are still women out there saying "Wow. This is what I needed to hear." or "Way to go" then I'll keep doing it. And I'll keep reading blogs and returning the favor.

    And I had actually never heard of Dooce until a couple of months ago, and I've been to her site twice, to whomever it was above me that asked if there were people out there who didn't read her. I think blogging is about relationships and I question a person's ability to have relationships with that many readers.

  • metta1313

    June 26, 2010 at 1:10 am

    I think I would be ok. I mean I have a handful of loyal readers/true mommy blogging friends, that I think if you guys are still around, then I'd be happy.

  • hermione329

    June 26, 2010 at 12:44 am

    I write to vent and cathartically release my frustrations to hopefully help someone and learn from my own mistakes. Readers are great, but if it falls by the wayside so be it.

  • Tiffany

    June 26, 2010 at 12:28 am

    I mainly blog for family and close friends. It is a way to share what is going on with Katelyn without having to say the same things over and over again. I enjoy making new blogging friends and I REALLY love getting comments. However, when times are slow I still blog for the same reasons I started. I'm not out to be the next biggest mommy blog or earn an income. I just want to share my life and experiences with others who are interested.

  • alicia

    June 25, 2010 at 11:09 pm

    Saw you at blog brew review and am stopping by. I think everyone blogs for different reasons and I do it mostly as an outlet. Few "Make It Big" and if that is why you do it you may be disappointed, so I keep my expectations low and plug away. When I stop enjoying it I'm not sure I'll continue.

  • Kelly

    June 25, 2010 at 10:59 pm

    I will continue to blog. Whether I have no readers or thousands. It doesn't matter to me. I love to blog. I love writing about things that happen and being able to go back and read what was going on during certain points in my life and my sons life.

  • Not There Yet

    June 25, 2010 at 10:36 pm

    exactly!

  • guiltysquid

    June 25, 2010 at 8:21 pm

    Hell, I'm always surprised when I DO have readers.

    I look at it like this, if I don't write this stuff out and put it on the internet, it'd be stuck in my head or I'd have to keep telling my kids these same stories over and over again and then everyone would lose.

    So, sorry Internet. I'm sticking around.

  • Amy

    June 25, 2010 at 7:53 pm

    I'm a new baby/mom blogger. I write because I love it. Followers and Tweets are cool…but whatever. It's like a diary for me really. A way to document my pregnancy.

    I very rarely read Dooce. Anyone else?

  • Margaret

    June 25, 2010 at 7:53 pm

    I think, as long as someone's listening, whether it's just my mom & sister or a few thousand people, I will jibber jabber on.

  • Diana

    June 25, 2010 at 7:47 pm

    Saffy – I plan on blogging on that tomorrow. It's a good question. (I sound just like a teacher lol)

    I think it's been really eye opening to read the responses on here. You ladies are amazing people.

  • Saffy

    June 25, 2010 at 7:41 pm

    I have 3 blogs. An open one that's kinda like D's baby book with a touch of diabetes and the like thrown in. I have a locked blog that's about the terrifying journey into pregnancy after losing a baby to preeclampsia – I open that to appropriate readers, and then there's the family blog. So actually they're for us, about us and a small community of lovely bloggers that we've met along the way. I'd never heard of Dooce before. I'm going to pull the "I live in New Zealand" card at this point, even though that doesn't really cut it :p

    So I guess it comes to whether you need public adoration/validation, or it's about you. If public interest comes along with sticking to what you started blogging for, then that's great. And if your intention is to create a small business, generating revenue, then fab. But if you lose yourself along the way, in order to blog about the topics that attract the highest stats – is that serving the purpose that you intended? Where do you sit on this one?

  • mommytojenna

    June 25, 2010 at 6:51 pm

    I started doing this because when I had Jenna and asked my mom questions, a lot of her answers were "i don't know" or "i don't remember" and I wanted to be able to give my daughter the gift of knowing exactly how i felt and what was going on when i was raising her. A year into it and honestly, numbers are not what you'd call great, and i still enjoy it. But of course I'd like people to read it and comment (because I really do love the feedback). But I've always been a writer and so this is just the form it's taking now and i'm having a really good time with it…

  • Momma Makeover

    June 25, 2010 at 6:44 pm

    I started "blogging" when it was called an online journal – I guess I still think in those terms: it's a diary that so happens to be online. This latest incarnation came out of dealing with PPD – in fact, the smaller the readership, the better! I love reading unconscious entries – those posted for the sake of writing, or to reach out to friends. Guess that's just the old fashioned "online journal" writer in me.

  • Law Momma

    June 25, 2010 at 3:48 pm

    I actually don't have a lot of readers and I still write, so I feel pretty confident in saying my brand of crazy is going to continue to pollute the e-verse for a long time. Sorry to disappoint. 🙂

  • WeeMasonMan’s Mom

    June 25, 2010 at 3:46 pm

    I blog because I'm too lazy to scrapbook. I want a day by day account to remember all the little details. I used to have an "online journal" about 10 years ago and I kept that up for about 4 years and never had much of a following – a few friends, a few anonymous readers and I quit writing it when it stopped being fun. I imagine it will be much the same this time around.

    That doesn't mean that I don't find comments/followers/etc awesome and get excited by them, but I write more for me than anyone else. The other stuff is just added perks.

  • Blair@HeirtoBlair

    June 25, 2010 at 3:31 pm

    I started writing with no readers & I would continue it.

    In some ways, I am getting to the point of pretending I have zero readers to return to the writer I once was.

  • angela

    June 25, 2010 at 3:26 pm

    I write because I like it, and it's cathartic for me. I also like having these stories written down and recorded, since I am a major failure with the paper baby books! I don't have a big following, or practically any following, but that's ok. I love reading other blogs and looking at pictures, and at the end of the day, that's enough. I figure my chances of hitting it big in the blogging world are about the same as my chances of hitting the lottery, LOL.

  • Nikki

    June 25, 2010 at 3:14 pm

    I've kept a paper journal since I was 12 and still do in addition to the blog. I'm like Tiffany, I started blogging as a form of therapy. It helped me to know that there were other moms out there who weren't perfect. Do I love comments and followers? Sure, who doesn't. But if I kept the same 20 followers for the next three years, I would be ok with that.

  • ~*Jess*~

    June 25, 2010 at 3:10 pm

    I know I won't be the next big thing. I never expected I would be. I write because I like to write and some of my friends (IRL) think that it's silliness and get a good laugh. I never even expected to have as many blog followers as I do now and it's awesome!

    One of the things I do love about blogging, reading other people's blogs and learning more about them through blogs and Twitters. Make "friendships" is awesome. If no one reads? Oh well. No one read before. But I'll still write. It's just me.

  • Alice

    June 25, 2010 at 3:07 pm

    I would be fine with it. I'm not blogging to be the next big thing. I love getting followers and comments, but even if I didn't, I started the blog for myself and for my family.

  • MommyLovesStilettos

    June 25, 2010 at 2:50 pm

    I'll write no matter what. I adore my readers, but it's not about that. I write for ME.

  • Captain Cleavage

    June 25, 2010 at 2:35 pm

    I would still blog even if I had no readers. I like goin back and reading my old blogs…and rememebering or even critiquing them. Now if it was no longer fun or if i got an e-stalker then yes I would quit…no hesitation.

  • Sarah

    June 25, 2010 at 2:25 pm

    I'm kinda torn on that. I want to think that I'm offering something useful that people can benefit from. That's what I want to do and if not, then I'd probably stop. I wouldn't quit blogging, but I'd switch gears for sure. It's not just all fun for me, it's a lot of work and if it doesn't seem there's a market for it then I'll quit and do something else. I'm cool with that.

  • Eads Family

    June 25, 2010 at 2:16 pm

    Oh I would def. continue on. If you are writing to become the next big thing it shows. I write for my and my family.

    Most of my special memories are kept in my blog. Lily's firsts, big milestones, crazy funny things that I want to be able to hold over her head. All of it.

    You have to love it or you suck at it.

  • thewifeychronicles

    June 25, 2010 at 2:13 pm

    I just love being able to write how I'm feeling and it's so much faster then actual writing and the added bonus is *meeting* so many awesome people:) so I'll blog till I die hehe

  • Christine @ SugarPlumTreasures

    June 25, 2010 at 2:12 pm

    I blog so that I can remember all of those little moments of Sugar Plum's babyhood. I plan to routinely have the blog printed into a book so that I will always have those moments. And then when she calls me and wants to know when she cut her first tooth (is it ever going to happen) I will be able to pull out the books and let her know.
    I love that I have a few faithful readers – but if they all went away tomorrow I would keep at it – because its as much for me and Sugar Plum as it is for anyone else.

  • Erin

    June 25, 2010 at 1:59 pm

    I started blogging as a way to keep my friends and family updated on our lives since we moved farther away. I blog for me, and for them, if others tap into it, then great, if not, that's okay. I read the blogs I like, I comment on them, and if that brings someone to my blog, then that's a bonus. I am enjoying connecting with others in the blogging community through twitter. I've always enjoyed writing and starting this blog has helped me get back into that on a regular basis which makes me feel good 🙂

  • That Mama Gretchen

    June 25, 2010 at 1:57 pm

    I blog for my family. It helps keep them involved and build a relationship with my little bun in the oven 🙂 Nothing more, nothing less.

  • Suzanne

    June 25, 2010 at 1:54 pm

    I think if someone gets into blogging to "make it" they are always going to be disappointed. The kind of amazing success a few bloggers have reached cannot be duplicated or predicted.

    For me "making it" is having my friends say "I loved what you wrote the other day" and my mom send me email that says "Those picture are so cute!" and my internet friends say "Oh, I know EXACTLY what you mean!" And I am 100% happy with that.

  • sheaintheavy

    June 25, 2010 at 1:50 pm

    Hi!
    I started a blog for myself, like a diary. I just wanted a way to remember all the minutia in the everday (like my son putting his head in a coffee can).
    While I only have a few people that read, it is nice to have a community as none of my IRL friends have babies yet!
    Definitely do it for me (and maybe the bubs will read it one day), but meeting some sweet people along the way is nice.
    So there's my 2 pennies.

    🙂 Lisa

  • Tiffany

    June 25, 2010 at 1:50 pm

    I will write readers or no readers in one way, shape or form the rest of my life. If I wake up tomorrow, and I am not having fun blogging, I will move on and have no regrets. If everyone quits reading it – and I am still enjoying it – I will still be there typing away when/if they return.

    This started as a form of therapy -and will continue as a form of therapy…and that is it. If GOD came down and said wam, bam, thank you mam, you are the new DOOCE, I would hesitate if I even wanted that.

    I'm happy. & having fun meeting amazing women like yourself. Is there anymore you can ask for???

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