Things I wish I had known

March 2, 2011

Krista is a (sort of) supportive wife to a high school football coach and an (always) frazzled momma to a wild child of a 17-month old toddler with another baby due any day.  Currently, she is spending her evenings washing burp cloths, chasing her little girl, trying to see her toes and counting down the days to her delivery date of March 7th.  As a working mom, Krista constantly tries to find the balance between a busy job and making sure dinner gets on the table and her daughter reaches her daily quota of kisses.  To-do lists, chocolate and wine help to keep her sane.  Somewhere along the way, she started sharing her stories and all the reasons she would never be “mommy of the year” with the internet at

Let’s get something straight. I’m not an expert. I’m not even entirely sure I’m good at this “mommy thing.” There is at least one day a week that I want to escape to my bathroom and soak in a hot bath until my skin wrinkles, shutting out the kid, the husband, the work, the laundry and the dishes. And, most days my husband is nice enough to tell me to go take that bath… and then 15 minutes later he brings the toddler in to “check on Mommy”. Sigh. Thanks honey.

Anyway, I digress. My point is, I’m not sure I’m good at this. But almost 17 months into the parenting thing with another due any day now, I have learned a thing or two. Some things people sort of alluded to when I was pregnant and would talk about what I thought parenting was like, others completely blindsided me. So, here’s my list of things I wish I had known before I brought my sweet girl home last September.

1. Some days you will feel like a super-hero.
There will be days that you keep your kid in one piece, you may even make her laugh a time or two, you read books, you are able to soothe her immediately and you have dinner ready on time. And it tastes good. You dance across your kitchen thinking that this, THIS right here, is what you were made to do. It feels right, it feels natural and it may not feel easy, but you did it. And you, my friend, are a rock star.

2. Other days you will feel like the world’s biggest screw up.
Then, there are days that nothing goes right. The baby cries all day and you can’t figure out why. You forget that three days ago you put a load of laundry in the washing machine and now it smells funny so you have to rewash it, but oh, hey, the shirt you needed for that important meeting – the only shirt you have that fits right, it’s in there and now you have to find something else to wear. You fight with your husband. You twist your ankle. And, dammit, who drank all the wine?

3. Taking a bath alone, or at least without a kid interrupting you, becomes a luxury.
Now that I’ve had a kid, I either get up really early to bath or shower before she wakes up or I save my “ahh.. peace” moments for well after she’s gone to bed. On the occasion that I do have to get ready while she’s up, I spend my bath time singing “Head, Shoulders, Knees & Toes,” trying to talk her out of crawling into the bathtub with me or from dropping her stuffed animals in the water.

4. Date nights with the husband are not so easy to come by.
Before I had a kid, I thought date nights would come easy. I’d call up one of Craig’s high school students, pay them the going rate for a baby sitter and go eat steaks and drink beer with my husband. Turns out, I’m sort of picky about who I leave my child with. So, between finding someone I trust to stay with her, worrying about whether they’ll put her to bed the same way I do and coordinating schedules with my husband, date night takes the scheduling ability of a social director for the White House.

5. Newborns are easier than toddlers.
Even with their crying, their every-two-hour-feedings, their explosive poops and spitting up, newborns are easier than toddlers. And here’s why: When you put them in one place, they stay there. You don’t walk to the kitchen to start a grocery list and look up 17 seconds later to find your newborn at the top of your steps. You don’t negotiate over goldfish crackers versus ice cream or have meltdowns when you give your kid milk instead of apple juice, even though she asked for milk.

6. If your kid takes a pacifier, ALWAYS have a back up.
Don’t ever get in the car with only one pacifier. Don’t do it. You will need to stop 37 times between point A and point B to retrieve it after your child throws it across the car. Think you won’t? Think you’ll just let the baby learn NOT to throw her comfort items? Fat chance when your kid is screaming, your ears are bleeding and you’re driving at 60 MPH.

7. You will never pee alone when you’re at home with your kid.
The end.


  • Lisa

    March 8, 2011 at 12:23 pm

    Hope you’re enjoying you bran new little one right now. all these are soo true. and i totally love the tantrum because you gave them milk instead of apple juice when they ASKED for milk. this is a fairly regular occurrence in our house. thankfully at just turned 3 he’s pretty easily comforted by telling him he can have juice just as soon as he drinks the milk! and peeing…good lord I need a second bathroom because I can barely get in mine (1 bathroom and 5 people) but then I can’t get any peace when I do.

  • Tara

    March 3, 2011 at 1:04 pm

    So very true! Good luck with baby #2! Something that I wished I had known before I had the second? One is great! Dare I say, easy! But when you throw the second one in the mix, it’s a completely different ballgame 🙂

  • Jen

    March 2, 2011 at 10:19 pm

    The only time I pee alone is at work. It is a real luxury…I want to stay in there forever.

  • Joanna

    March 2, 2011 at 7:29 pm

    LOL. Amen.

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  • branson

    March 2, 2011 at 5:55 pm

    This post both made me laugh and made me scared of the impending toddler years, lol! Good stuff!

  • Cole

    March 2, 2011 at 1:59 pm

    “Newborns are easier than toddlers.”

    I had colic and acid reflux and cried non-stop the first four months of my life and STILL Mommy remembers that time being easier than now that I am 18 months and mobile and oh-so-opinionated.

  • Cortney

    March 2, 2011 at 1:30 pm

    Now that I think about it I was in the bathroom an awful lot with my mom as a child (hense the never pee alone)…good luck with you next baby! Loved reading this post!

  • Jessica

    March 2, 2011 at 1:04 pm

    OMG! You have managed to place a majority of what I have been thinking & feeling lately. The only thing that is a tad bit different for me is that fact that date night is impossible for me because: 1) I know no one where I live to watch Bubbie. 2) My husband would rather play stupid video games instead of go out and have ‘us’ time.

    But it’s okay. I’ve survived without losing or killing this one. I’m just hoping to survive when number 2 gets here. lol


  • NainaDG

    March 2, 2011 at 12:28 pm

    Such a great post! And the never peeing alone again is so so true. I think my only solitary time now is in the shower. Oh god how I love showers.

  • Samantha

    March 2, 2011 at 12:04 pm

    This is too funny!! Great post, I remember (faintly) the days when I got to take a shower longer than 5 minutes or pee alone. I cling to those memories during dark days. 🙂

  • kim

    March 2, 2011 at 12:00 pm

    Peeing. ALONE. When, oh, WHEN?? I miss this so very, very much!! Krista, this was great!! I wish someone had told me, too! Those super hero days *totally* suck you in, don’t they? And the wash? ugh. How many times have I left it in the washer? I’m not answering that question. My last two kids are 15 months apart, with John’s birthday on March 8 — so I’m thinking you are totally rocking this baby deal!

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