I might be stellar at housecleaning.
Or at least that seems to be the impression you all got on Monday. Which isn’t quite accurate but whatever.
But I’m struggling a bit with finding a good rhythm in the work at home mom gig. Mostly the time it takes for me to get writing done with Bella at home. I simply can’t do it all during her nap or at night. During her nap I do dinner prep, laundry, and cleaning – then I write. (Not judging if you don’t. That’s just me.) So in order to meet deadlines for BlogHer, book reviews, and the publications I freelance for – as well as all the things life throws at me – there are times I have to be on here when Bella is up.
And she does not like that one bit.
If I’m doing dinner, she goes to play. Or we put on a Baby Signing Time. If I’m cleaning, she helps. If I do errands, she comes along. But the computer? It takes away time from her and she whines the moment I sit down.
Somehow I’m feeling that last sentence is going to get me nasty comments. Oh well.
I’m pulling in money for our family. Many moms do this at home, and I assume the majority of them in some way use the computer to help. It happens to be the very focus of what I do as a writer. I could use a pen and paper but…
So I struggle with her being up and me having to work. It’s usually only for 30-45 minutes, a few times a week. But as her naps stop, and as things get busier here, this is bound to become more. I am not going to cram it all in at 8pm while Sam watches TV alone. I’m also not going to get up at 5am to get it done.
I don’t feel guilty about this (which is unusual for me) – I’m just at a loss for how to help her get past the resentment of me being on here, and to find something to do so that I can get done quicker. Because 45 minutes of writing with her banging over and over into my knees and falling apart on the floor means I get nothing done.
This is also why we put off having a second child. Because until I get in the swing of working at home with Bella, there is no way I’d throw a pregnancy or a baby in the mix.
So work at home moms – how do you do it? How do you make sure the time you need to get things done doesn’t feel like a punishment to your children? As things get busier (homeschooling, sports, classes, more children, more work) how do you organize your day to finish it all?