I wasn’t going to write this post quite yet. At 5 1/2 weeks it seems a little early to blog on how you plan on delivering your child 8ish months from now.
But with Twitter inquiries, questions from friends and family, and the fact that I had my first appointment yesterday; I’ve come to realize it’s something almost everyone wants to know when you get pregnant.
Where and how will you have the baby?
With Bella, we lived in a small town. The nearest hospital was 30 minutes away, I was high risk, we had a family doctor. I had her in a hospital where my wishes were respected. I liked my doctor, birth, and loved (most of) being in the hospital.
Moving here meant more choices. El Paso is home to one of the largest midwife schools in the nation, as well as a barrage of birthing centers.
But I decided that I was comfortable, felt safe, and most important – wanted – a hospital birth again. Only with a midwife this time.
We found a great hospital close to us that has birthing suites, private rooms, tubs, lactation consultants, and liberal visiting/birth attendant options. And it is the only hospital that offers a choice to have a CNM (Certified Nursing Midwife) instead of an OBGYN.
When most people hear midwife, they assume a natural birth in somewhere other than a hospital. Because otherwise, what’s the point in having one?
I chose to go with a midwife who works at our hospital because I want a “more” natural birth. Does this mean a natural birth? Not necessarily. I believe, for me, the way to have a successful birth and regret free postpartum period is to be mentally and physically as prepared as I can for all types of birth situations. This time I want to be prepare myself better to handle a natural birth, but I’m also ready to have an epidural again if I change my mind, and a c-section if I need to.
I want a healthy child. That is all. That is my focus during this pregnancy. Whatever that means in 8 months.
I chose a midwife so I could have a more holistic, personal approach to my overall care. I chose a midwife so that I know if she looks at me and says, “We have to do a c-section” I’ll have absolute confidence that we both did everything we could until there was no other choice. I chose a midwife so that when I say, “I want my child to only breastfeed, cosleep with me, and wait on being washed” she will back me up, and I will not have to fight for my right to have the kind of birth and few days after I want with my child.
Are there OBGYN’s that do this? Yes. Mine with Bella did. But so far I haven’t found any here, and I know it’s more likely with a midwife.
This may be one of the only posts I write on birth until the baby is born. I don’t want to focus on it on here. I’m excited to talk about the midwife and my visits and the hospital, but I know many people have strong feelings one way or the other on birth choices and my blog isn’t going to be about that. I’m sharing a decision because I’ve been asked.
Sam and I have talked extensively about what he and I feel the most comfortable with, and a hospital with a midwife seems to suit us perfectly. I’m so excited about it – I really am. I’m thankful it’s an option for us. That is the great part about this whole thing, you get to chose what works best for you.
I can’t wait to share the experience and journey of these next 8 months on here as I watch this baby grow and prepare my body as it does and is able to do an amazing thing – give life. No matter how it happens to do that.