It Is Well.

December 14, 2012

There are times that I’m so afraid. Angry. Frustrated. I feel like – I’ve been through enough. I deserve to have another pregnancy. An easy pregnancy.

I didn’t eat the apple. I didn’t choose to live in a broken world. I didn’t ask to be created and then punished for the sins of my fathers thousands of years ago. Where is the justice in that?

Then I realize – I would have been Eve. I would have eaten that apple. Because I eat the apple every day. By choice. Still. Even knowing the outcome.

It’s hard to know I control nothing that this next year brings. That I could sit here in a year and have a baby, or not, or another loss. And things will happen I never dreamed of. Good and bad.

It’s terrifying.

And in the midst of that, is the knowledge that others have walked this journey too. And survived. Thrived.

So many others have been on a much harder road than I ever will. How can I be frightened by the one God chose for me?

I am constantly reminded by Horatio Spafford who wrote “It Is Well With My Soul.” It isn’t just a gorgeous song, it’s a testament of how deep human faith can go in the midst of unthinkable loss. He lost his 4 little girls in a shipwreck, with only his wife surviving. The song was written as his ship passed the place they died.

What an amazing thing.

And before losing the boys? I couldn’t figure out how he could have ever written such a thing about a God that let his daughters drown. I listened to the story on the radio as a child (Adventures in Odyssey anyone?) and remember being so, so shocked that he was able to write and feel such a thing after losing almost everything in his life.

I get it. My faith isn’t as deep as his, my loss not as earth shattering, but I get it.

In the midst of the mind numbing grief, there was a place of such peace, such desperate clinging to God. I felt like only He understood my pain, only He really felt how deeply I felt. He could have saved them, but that isn’t the world. That wasn’t my life. Instead He came alongside me to carry me through the grief.

Help me Lord, to remember that I don’t deserve any of this. And to keep these words in my heart no matter what path my life takes.


  • RLJ

    December 14, 2012 at 4:34 pm

    I’ve always loved “It Is Well.” I heard the story as a child from a special singer that came to share at our church. It became even more meaningful 12 years ago.

    One Sunday morning in a hospital room, I picked up my Grandpa’s violin and opened the hymnal and started to play “It is Well” At the beginning, my family sang with the violin, but tears soon stopped the singing. My tears flowed too, but I didn’t stop playing.

    A week and half later, I picked up my grandpa’s violin again, this time from the top of his coffin and my cousins and I played it again. We played, and my cousin sang and we knew the truth – it was well with our soul, and it was also well with my grandpa’s soul as he sojourned with Jesus.

  • Hannah

    December 14, 2012 at 2:58 pm

    It’s a beautiful song and the history behind it makes it even more poignant. And yes, to Adventures in Odyssey 🙂 I fell asleep listening to it everynight as a kid.

  • Bethany

    December 14, 2012 at 8:25 am

    I am continuously amazed at the way God is healing your heart. Your decision to let him do his work in you through this is so inspiring. I pray that God blesses you with another pregnancy and healthy baby.

  • Robin S

    December 14, 2012 at 8:22 am

    I love that song… When I was pregnant with our 2nd daughter, we found out my husband was going to deploy again, and he prob wouldn’t be there for her birth… He came home for a 4 day pass (before i could possibly be induced), and she was born in the time when he was home!! We sent a picture to our good friends immediately after, and they were at our church for Sunday morning service… She wrote back that they were in the middle of singing “It is Well…” It has. Special meaning to is since then 🙂

  • Amanda

    December 14, 2012 at 8:06 am

    I don’t believe that there is less, just different.

    Love to you and strength to your spiritual well.

  • melissa

    December 14, 2012 at 7:49 am

    Love this post ♥

    And… did you get a new tattoo??? I LOVE IT!

    1. Diana

      December 14, 2012 at 7:52 am

      No – but this is the next one! 🙂 Isn’t hers gorgeous?

      1. melissa

        December 14, 2012 at 8:46 am

        Yes!!! Now I want one too! Hurry up and get it before you see two lines! 😉

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