Let’s Talk about the Starbucks Butterbeer Post

November 19, 2013

I’ve got to say something about it you might not have thought of.

I threw the butterbeer post up in about 7 minutes. I saw something on it while working at Starbucks and thought, “Wait, what?! Does anyone else know about this awesomeness?” I posted it with a pic of my current drink and hoped some of you would find it as fun as I did.

10,000+ Facebook shares, 9,000+ pins, front page of Google for “Starbucks Butterbeer Latte”, and over 200,000 hits on it – I got the message.

People like their Harry Potter and Starbucks. And they like them together.

Yes, it was amazingly awesome to watch it go viral. It was so cool to have friends message me with, “It’s all over my feed!” I loved waking up to it exploding everywhere.

Past that, it meant something else to me. You see – I’ve felt very stuck lately. Like I’ve been put into a baby loss box that I can’t seem to escape from. The main searches for my blog have to do with twin pregnancy, Zoloft, or Kaden. The times my posts get major attention and shares are from loss or the aftermath as I struggle to understand and write it out. That’s totally understandable, I don’t sit here and wonder why I didn’t get 10k+ shares on a post about our trip to a Farmer’s Market. C’mon. I fully realize the first person to click on that is my mom for Bella’s pics, followed by my sister.

Love you both for always reading. <3

I also love to know that others read and either feel connected in their loss, or understand what a friend or family member might be dealing with. I love that you guys are always telling me how our journey changes the way you view losing a baby. That rocks my world to think that just maybe – we don’t have to be afraid of this as much as we are before it happens.

But, on the flip side, it’s almost suffocating as a writer to (in my mind at least) be only “known” for loss. And when loss happens again? It’s like wearing my own scarlet letter. Everywhere. All the time.

Sometimes I hate it.

But it’s also my story and my three little boy’s stories. Painful, short, but loved and needing to be told.

When that post went viral, it was more than just clicks. It meant that my blog and name would be associated with something else for a while. Yeah, Butterbeer, so it’s not like I won the lottery or created something insanely crafty, but at least it wasn’t just about losing another child again. Or my pain attached to it.

It was a good feeling. And it was a lot of fun.



Other places I’ve written:

– Theo and Beau: Another Reason Animals are so Good for Kids – a puppy and his boy captured at nap time. The pics slay me. 

– Confidently Loving What I Do – why working from home is the best gig ever, and I’m always hesitant to say that. 

– Too Many Toys: 15 Unique Gift Ideas for Kids – give this guide and you it yourself for a toy-free holiday the kids will still love. 

– Grief is Grief: On Loss Comparison – whether you lost a baby at 7 weeks, 3 weeks old, or your grandpa at 25 – grief is still grief. 

– Bella’s 4th Birthday Party in Pictures – this weekend we celebrated Bella’s 4th birthday. Here are some adorable pics of her and her little friends. 



  • Beth Ann

    November 20, 2013 at 8:47 pm

    Wow, how awesome! We have a local coffee shop that sells a butterbeer latte and has for at least a couple of years… shamefully I didn’t realize it was a Harry Potter thing until your post. 😉

  • franchesca

    November 20, 2013 at 4:02 pm

    First of all, I have you to thank for my first Butterbeer ever!!

    Secondly, I can totally relate. At first I felt guilt talking about anything other than loss on my blog, but ultimately I had to, or just shut it down completely. Loss is a huge part of my life, but there is still so much more. Thank you for sharing this. It feels so good to be known for something other than loss. It’s almost like feeling alive again, in a sense.

    hugs x

  • J. Rae (@jraewrites)

    November 20, 2013 at 2:08 pm

    I’m so glad that post went viral 🙂 It was basically sa-weet!

  • Jen

    November 20, 2013 at 10:10 am

    I love your posts! I find them deeply encouraging. i cannot begin to understand the level of loss you feel at times, but I understand just a smidge as I lost my 1st child. You keep doing what your doing and allow healing through your writing…..whether it be serious or funny – we adore you!

  • petal and plume

    November 20, 2013 at 9:57 am

    your blog is a wonderful thing. i found you off “she reads truth”. God bless!

  • Alicia Smith

    November 20, 2013 at 3:45 pm

    What you say makes sense, love and prayers as always Diana! I love your home-school posts a lot too <3

  • Misty Pratt

    November 20, 2013 at 2:16 pm

    Congrats on the Butterbeer post!! I've been reading you since long before your losses, and I still think you're a great writer with a lot to say 🙂

  • JusikaRenae

    November 19, 2013 at 9:28 pm

    My friend gave me this poem, it reminded me a lot of what you said here. Also, your starbucks post was present at our community group last week. I just had to smile beacuse all I heard was “some lady…wrote this post about…”


    I wear a pair of shoes
    They are ugly shoes
    Uncomfortable shoes
    I hate my shoes
    Each day I wear them and each day I wish I had another pair.
    Some days my shoes hurt so bad that I do not think I can take another step
    Yet, I continue to wear them
    I get funny looks wearing these shoes
    They are looks of sympathy.
    I can tell in others eyes that they are glad they are my shoes and not theirs
    They never talk about my shoes
    To learn how awful my shoes are might make them uncomfortable.
    To truly understand these shoes you must walk in them.
    But, once you put them on, you can never take them off.
    I now realize I am not the only one who wears these shoes.
    There are many pairs in this world.
    Some women are like me and ache daily as they try and walk in them.
    Some have learned how to walk in them so they don’t hurt quite as much.
    Some have worn the shoes so long that days will go by before they think about how much they hurt
    No woman deserves to wear these shoes
    They have made me who I am.
    I will forever walk in the shoes of a woman who has lost a child

  • Susan Sontra

    November 20, 2013 at 3:44 am

    I just wanted to say that I found you through the Starbucks post which I shared with my Harry Potter friends. I started following you for so many other writings you have here. Until I read this blog, I guess, I hadn't realized this had been such a focus for you. From this first time reader you have so much to offer! Keep up the good writing.

  • chgdiapers

    November 19, 2013 at 7:55 pm

    You are much more than baby loss or butterbeer! <3

  • Shawn

    November 19, 2013 at 7:43 pm

    I love your blog for lots of reasons! You’ve taught me cloth diapering basics, shared your experiences as a military wife and have a really great voice as a writer. It’s so brave of you to share your sons’ stories, and I’m happy you’ve found a support system from it. Butterbeer is just icing on the cake! 🙂

  • Christine @ Bluegrass Blogger

    November 19, 2013 at 7:00 pm

    I’m very happy for you! That post and the phenomenon around it is awesome.

  • Jill

    November 19, 2013 at 6:52 pm


  • Haley

    November 19, 2013 at 6:33 pm

    It wasn’t just the butterbeer post I found myself sharing with friends lately… I really loved and appreciated your unique gift guide for kids and your post about Thanksgiving books! …And of course I enjoy your personal posts with pictures of your beautiful mini-me! I feel like you’ve been writing up a storm lately and I’m loving all of it!

  • Elizabeth Clements

    November 19, 2013 at 6:27 pm

    You deserve every bit of that ray of sunshine.

  • Amy

    November 19, 2013 at 6:22 pm

    I went Saturday with the recipe and the barista said he had already been making some that day! It is definitely a favorite!! Yum!!

    I love reading everything you write. I am on She Reads Truth and love seeing when you post. I always refer to you as “my friend Diana” whenever I quote something wonderful you’ve said while I am in Sunday School or talking with friends. You are someone very special to me. I think you are amazing!

  • Linda

    November 19, 2013 at 6:15 pm

    I live in NM and am always thinking about how cool it would be to meet you. I feel like part of your family, warts and all. But mostly, I love the way you write and I think you are an amazing person. I wish I had that talent!!!

  • Brandy Mann

    November 20, 2013 at 1:08 am

    I luff you 🙂 That is all

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